I now believe the more comfortable we are with ourselves. The happier we will be. It’s time to stop beating ourselves up for what we did or did not do, for what we have or do not have. What would happen if you decided to stop comparing yourself today, if you decided to give your own inner voice an actual place on the stage of your life, and allowed yourself to enjoy where you are on the way to where you are going?
“It’s still magic even if you know how it’s done.” Terry Pratchett
When I wrote this post before work this morning, I didn’t expect that we would lose the Queen of soul today – Aretha Franklin.
“Be your own artist, and always be confident in what you’re doing. If you’re not going to be confident, you might as well not be doing it.”
As Aretha once said, “sometimes what you’re looking for is already there.” Let’s look within, and embrace the grace you’ve been given. Shine bright baby girl.
Can we open our eyes?
We talk about being more authentic, our mental health and being able to talk to each other, and the importance of community, but I’ve noticed that we can be just as judgmental about who we share a smile with – especially when the person seems different than our norm.
It still feels a little selfish to me… and don’t get me wrong, I’m talking about everyone else. I’m far from perfect here too, but I am challenging myself with this thought too. We are getting better at talking about the things we need to talk about but sometimes too good.
I just wonder how many of us take time to notice the individual in the canteen who is searching for a seat on their own, or who pass us on the street with tears running down there eyes. Whilst we sit in groups comparing and contrasting the good and the bad of our jobs, day, and life, or go about our business ignoring the tears dropping by our side. I don’t know about anyone else but I know how easy it is to be distracted from actioning the very thing I know to do… We are so good at giving out all the excuses in the world about why we can’t, why we didn’t, and I don’t know about you but I’m just tired of hearing all the right words, in all the wrong places. I want to be someone who follows through all the time, not just when it looks good, makes me feel comfortable, and reaches across the room.Someone wise once said about life that;
“It’s not about what you see but how you see it.”
What are you noticing today? Where does your sight need adjusting?
It’s one thing to say you stand for something or that you’re going to change something, it’s a whole other matter to live it.
We can spend so much of our time trying to mould into somebody else, and it take so much of our energy to never actually reach that goal. Today I am embracing the beauty of something quite wonderful that is flourishing in my life. Today I am hanging out with me, and writing another letter to my younger self.
I love this quote:
I think there is so many influences that surround us that we often try to suppress ourselves unconsciously, our emotions, or our desires. We hear negative opinions, experience knock backs and question our ability to draw, create, or pursue a particular career path; and either give up or try and clone ourselves into the shape of someone we think to be successful. It’s crazy.
We grow up with so many misconceptions that we can be in danger of missing the beauty inside ourselves. I’m sure I’ve had moments of recognising this before, but moving to London, and experiencing all that I have in these past 18 months I am reminded that the very reason I made this move was to pursue my own journey of success. Now as the complicated humans that we are, I am growing to become more of who I truly am, and weeding out the feeble attempts of being anyone else. It’s an exciting adventure. Daunting at points, but I do want to urge my younger self to learn to accept being different as early as possible, and embrace the journey ahead. Find out who you are, and keep on learning. Don’t stop, and be careful which assumptions you make because life has a funny way of making you forget the most important things; which is to know what’s inside of you, and who you are.
Often many are bound by fear of stepping out in the circle of life they find themselves, and choosing to be uncomplicated, but darling there is no use trying to make the journey without rustling a few feathers. Now we don’t have to tell the whole world our hopes and dreams, there’s wisdom in protecting ourselves. Not everyone can handle our dirt, as my instagram picture tells us here. However, if you don’t allow yourself to be exposed to you, then you’re in trouble girlfriend.
Side note: Today I am loving my new lipstick, and new salt and pepper coat from Zara. It’s feels like it’s about to snow in London, so I’m wrapping up with my favourite colour scarf from last years collection at Zara. Oh, and let’s not forget my home made toffee nut latte. If you’d like to hear me talk about this in person, why not jump over and check out my You Tube channel. It’s very early days, and I haven’t quite decorated my room yet, but I would love a thumbs up on the video if you’d like me to keep going. I’m sure it’s about to get super interesting as I film my steps in London, and beyond. Oh yes, there’s much more to come.