“Don’t judge someone’s story by a scene you don’t understand. Be thankful you have never experienced it and show a little respect.”

Grace by definition is unmerited favour. None of us deserve it, so before we decide to withhold it from anyone be sure that we must be willing to be treated with same measure.

My mum raised me on the idea that we should treat people how we want to be treated. It’s this ideal that drives me to see the best in everyone, often, at times even when the bad outweighed the good. Great wisdom, but difficult to live out at times through our imperfections. How do we get the balance between loving and showing grace when the return is less than favourable?

I believe the answer is simple. It’s a choice.

We choose to love and show kindness, and to forgive in the face of disagreement, differing opinions, and seek to find the common ground. Not always easy, or possible, but should always be a goal to strive for. I believe that kindness is a strength, not a weakness. Too often it is mistaken as one, but perhaps Gary Vee was right when he responded to that statement this week adding, “only by weak people.”

We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can choose our response to it.

We have the right to choose what we stand for and we are too precious to allow ourselves to be subjected to abuse, toxic situations; holding onto relationships, dreams, and jobs that like food have a range of sell by dates. Not every piece of food has a lifetime shelf time.

It is healthy, and right to review and audit the situations we find ourselves in, the people around us, and the choices we are making often, to ensure we are making room and achieve the purpose and dreams, bearing fruit that positively extends beyond our life.